What happens if you don't have sex for too long

Sex, a word that incites a whole lot of sentiment, excitement, intrigue, shame, taboo and whatnot. Conversations around sex garner a lot of interest because most people love sex and love talking about it as well, but again the veil of taboo around it makes it difficult to have those conversations.

But that's what we are here for right? To have those uncomfortable conversations, to break the stigma around sex so that we can have open dialogues and debunk the misconceptions that we have around sex. Because let’s be honest, growing up very few of us had access to healthy sex education. We were taught about “reproduction” in school for sure, but that was mainly about sexual organs how is a baby conceived and not much about the “sex” part.

When it came to our households, the conversation turned even more awkward. Remember the awkward exchange of glances that would happen among family members when an intimate scene or a condom commercial would come up on the TV screen?

Unfortunately for a lot of us, sex education was summarised in one line “ Don’t have sex till you get married”. This lack of sex education is what breeds a lot of misconceptions among youngsters and they go to uncredited spaces like pornography to look for answers to their unending questions and these sources again provide them mostly with misinformation. 

So we are here to spark up another uncomfortable conversation. What happens to your body when you don’t have sex for too long? Okay before we dig into that question, we need to understand another important fact. Sex has a lot of positive effects on our bodies. Yep ladies and gentlemen. Not only does sex makes us feel err…satisfied and happy, it actually does a lot of things for our bodies. What are they? Let’s find out

Benefits of Having Sex

Keeps your immunity System up and running

Now, you weren’t expecting that were you? But studies have shown that people who have a healthy and regular sex life tend not to take as many sick days as compared to those who well, do not have sex often. So the bottom line is, that if you have sex regularly, your body will be more competent to fight germs, viruses and other intruders from outsiders. However, don’t forget to eat healthy, exercise and do all the other stuff that you need to do to keep your immune system strong apart from having sex

Lowers your Blood Pressure
Several studies have shown the direct relationship between having regular sex and keeping systolic blood pressure in control

Keeps your heart healthy
Turns out a good sex life is not only good for your mood but is also good for your heart. It is a great and may we say fun way to keep up your heart rate and it also helps you keep your estrogen and testosterone levels in balance.

Helps with Pain Relief
Do you know what an absolutely great pain killer? A kickass orgasm. Barry R. Komisaruk, PhD, a distinguished service professor at Rutgers, the State University of New Jersey says that orgasms can block pain, It releases a hormone that increases our pain threshold. So next time you are in some sort of physical pain and find yourself reaching for some Aspirin, why not try an orgasm before?

Helps with sleep
Aaah! This is definitely a well-known fact. We all find ourselves feeling a bit drowsy and sleepy after a good…err…session if we may say so. This is mainly because after we have an orgasm, a hormone named prolactin is released, which induces a feeling of relaxation and sleepiness. 

What Happens when you don't have sex for a long time

Now, that we have discussed the benefits of having regular sex, it is pretty obvious that those who don't have a healthy and regular sex life will miss out on these benefits and more

Increased chances of Anxiety and stress


Speaking from a biological level, sex especially orgasms releases hormones like oxytocin and endorphins which helps us keep our anxiety and stress levels in check and as we already mentioned, helps us sleep better too. Going without sex for a long time can hence you a tad bit more anxious and stressed.

Now coming to an interpersonal level regular sex with your partner is a pretty innate part of romantic relationships, especially for those who love together. Now, if you guys don’t have sex for a long period of time, it may give birth to anxiety and doubts about your relationship. So if you are going through that, make sure to communicate it to your partner and have a healthy conversation about why you guys aren’t having sex as often as you used to. 

Spike in Blood pressure

You saw that coming, didn’t you? Having sex regularly keeps your blood sugar level in control and therefore you don’t have sex regularly you might witness a spike in your blood pressure level

Vaginal Dryness

This is for all the ladies out there. Having regular intercourse keeps vaginal dryness at bay and prevents your tissues down there from getting hurt and injured. So, the reverse is also true, lack of sex can lead to the drying of vaginal tissues. So the next time you have sex or engage in any activities that involve your vaginal tissues, you might put them at risk of injury.

Chances of Prostate Cancer

Having regular sex and even masturbation is said to have the potential to reduce the chances of prostate cancer among men and hence when you don't have sex regularly you are a wee bit more subjected to the chances of getting prostate cancer

Weaker Immunity System

Yep, you might find yourself catching a cold a bit too often if you don’t have sex regularly. As we already mentioned, sex helps your immunity system keep up and running and when you don’t engage in it quite that often you might find yourself falling ill more. 

 

Is there something wrong with me if I don’t want to have sex

In case this discussion made you feel that you must have sex even if you don’t want to, we are here to tell you that is absolutely not the case. It is absolutely alright if you don’t feel any inclination towards sex at the moment or ever. Truth be told, in a world that is obsessed with sex, you might feel out of place if you don’t find yourself yearning for sex as much as others do.  But we are here to tell you that is absolutely fine. Sex is a choice and you must engage in it only when you feel absolutely sure that you want to do it. And in case you are worried about missing out on the benefits of having sex, there are many ways by which you can make up for it. Exercising, taking vitamins, meditating and so on. You can choose to consult a doctor if you want for the same reason. But the bottom line is it is absolutely normal and fine to not want to have sex.