4 Key Sex Acts for Same-Sex Beginners
No matter who you are or want to have sex with, having sex for the first time might be a little unsettling.
Educating yourself about how sex can function and how to engage in safer sex is crucial because there are so many myths as well as misconceptions surrounding same-gender sex.
Here is what you should know is as follows.
Sex Can Mean Different Things to Different Groups of People
Most of us learn that sex involves a penis entering a vagina through education, the media, and our communities.
Although many people only consider sex with the penis in the vagina to be "real" sex, the term is open-ended. To many people, sex can imply different things.
An incomplete list of what can qualify as sex for you is provided below:
- Hugging and kissing.
- Penis-in-vagina sex.
- Phallic-in-anus sex.
- Employing sex toys.
- Mutual molesting.
- Sexually touching.
- Breast and nipple interaction.
- Oral sex takes place on the penis, anus, or vagina.
- Manual sex includes hand jobs, fingering, clitoral play, anal play, and fisting.
Therefore, you are free to define sex however broadly or specifically you like, even if it involves "same-sex."
Now, Let’s Talk About 4 Sex Acts for Same-Sex Beginners
Lesbian, gay, bisexual, and heterosexual people can express sexual pleasure in various ways.
No matter what is your sex or sexual orientation, there isn't just one way for two individuals to have sex.
Whatever feels comfortable for them is what two persons of the same sex choose to do when having sex.
People frequently believe that having sex just involves inserting a penis into a vagina. However, this may not always be the activity that gives the two participants the most pleasure.
Gay, lesbian, bisexual, and heterosexual people can all agree with this.
So, here is the list of four sexual acts that same-sex beginners can try next in their bedroom for enhanced pressure and bonding with their partners:
1. Passionate Kissing
It can make you or your partner feel uninspired or bored to use the same kissing technique throughout a single make-out session.
As you go, alter your kissing technique. You can, for instance, trace your tongue over your partner's lips, gently suction your partner's tongue or bottom lip with your lips, or swirl your tongue around the tip of theirs.
By switching between various kissing styles, you can show them varied levels of your want: kiss them ferociously to send ferocious messages of need; kiss them lightly to leave them wanting more.
Keep trying and keep looking for what kissing style works for you and your partner.
2. Touching and Exploring Each Other’s Bodies
In manual stimulation, you use your hands to give your spouse pleasure. Play around with different movements, pressures, and speeds.
If your partner has a vagina, depending on their physical characteristics and tastes, you might try:
- Massaging their clitoris by using a finger to discover their G-spot, a rough region of tissue in the vaginal wall.
- Lightly touching the area around their clitoris or vagina in a tease.
- Or touching the skin immediately outside their anus by invading their anus with your fingers.
If your partner is blessed with a penis, manually stimulating someone with a penis can be done in various ways:
- Gripping their penis firmly and gliding your hand up and down to perform a hand job.
- Ask your partner what pace and pressure they prefer while softly stroking the head of their penis,
- Contacting and rubbing their scrotum.
- And explore their anus with your fingers around the perineum, the region between the scrotum and anus.
3. Oral Sex
Oral stimulation is exactly what it sounds like: praising your lover with your mouth and tongue.
If your spouse has a vagina, you can lick, suck, or kiss their inner thighs, genitals, or the region around the clitoris or the vagina.
Whereas you can lick, suck, or kiss your partner's inner thighs, penis, scrotum, and perineum if they have a penis.
Adding to this, a pleasant approach to heat things up and boost enjoyment is by lightly flicking the clit or tip of the penis with your tongue.
And, one last action you don’t wanna miss while doing oral sex is making strong eye contact with your partner. This will not only help you bond better but also makes you both confident about your pleasing actions.
4. Penetrative sex
Yeah....we know this post is about the same sex!
Although penetration is frequently associated with penises, it can also occur with various other objects, including your fingers, your fist, or a sex toy. This means that the same sexes can also enjoy it!
During Vaginal: Try penis-in-vagina intercourse, fingering a vagina or putting a dildo inside the vagina.
During Anal: You need to make a little more preparation if you're going to have anal sex. Using lubricant is crucial since the anus cannot manufacture its natural lubrication.
As the lining of the anus walls is thinner than that of the vagina, proceed with caution.
In anal, you can try: Penis-in-anus intercourse, fingering the anus, fisting the anus, using an anal plug, and inserting a dildo or vibrator.
Important Tips to Takeaway for Beginners
- Keep in mind that numerous sex actions can cause an STI.
Around 20 million Americans get a sexually transmitted infection (STI) every year, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention.
Your specific STI risk is influenced by a number of variables, such as:
- What sexual acts are you performing?
- The sexual background of both you and your partner.
- Whether you employ condoms or other preventative measures.
- Remember that STIs can be contracted independently of your partner's or your anatomy.
- Also, it’s possible to get pregnant. Sounds shocking, but it's true!
Penis-in-vagina intercourse is possible when one partner is transgender and has a penis while the other is cisgender and has a vagina.
This indicates that pregnancy is oftentimes possible.
Discuss birth control measures with your partner if you want to prevent unwanted pregnancy.
A combination of condoms and hormonal contraception, such as the pill, may be used in such situations.
The Final Verdict
Although having sex for the first time can be intimidating, the good news is that a wide variety of detailed knowledge is available to guide you.
Also, the great news is that you can improve your sex skills by practicing more.
Speak with a healthcare professional who is accepting of people if you have any questions regarding LGBTQ+ or same-sex topics.
They can provide you with more relevant information about more such taboo topics.